Monday, February 28, 2011

Remembering the Past...


I thought that tonight I would post a little about why Tune it Out was started, and how I fit into all these....
      When I was a lot younger, I went to a private grade school. MY class consisted of 31 kids, and we were the small one. I had a small group of friends, who talked to me like a person, Joey, Luke, Andrew, and Brandon. They were my guy friends who actually hung out with me outside of school and talked to me like a friend. I wasn't into sports, and I wasn't the smartest kid in the bunch either. In fact, I was 4'3" and weighed about 68 pounds, in the third and fourth grade.
    This isn't the reason of why I fit into Tune it Out however; in fact this is the least of my problems. During recess, I was the only guy who didn't play sports; I spent my 30 minutes in the back of the playground with a large group of girls. They all loved talking to me because I was so sensitive, and understanding to their problems. I was what you would call a complete DORK.
      I found out later that most of the guys where jealous that girls talked to me so much and looked up to me, but only to realize they called me GAY and a FAG because I didn't play sports, I just hung out with girls. Granted it felt like the complete opposite because of the fact that I had more girlfriends than guy friends. They didn't see it that way because the girls I hung out with always wanted me to help them get with guys they liked. Sort of like the gay best friend. 
      Once word got out, the name-calling really started, people came at right and me left when teachers weren't looking. One day it got so bad that I was ready to fight to defend myself, but before I could do anything a 7th grader came up to me, and told me to give him all of my Pokémon cards, and when I refused he pushed me down. (Even though I was small, I still defended myself) so I got back up, raising my fists at him, in a defensive position. Before I had a chance to do anything, the older kid smacked me so hard, that I couldn't see, my mouth was bleeding and I wanted to cry. He had broken a blood vessel in my eye. 
      It was than that my friend Joey came running over and grabbed the kid. Joey was abnormally big for his age; he was about 5'6" and was younger than me, by a year. He took down the 7th grader barley lifting a finger. When a teacher caught word of Joey defending me, she quickly brought him to the principle and he received his first detention ever. His parents were not mad at him, and I was lucky to have a friend like him. 
      About a year ago Joey committed suicide and nobody really knows why he did it. I later found out that a part of the reason is he was depressed from lack of encouragement from family and friends and that he had been bullied via Facebook messages. I also feel that there was something I missed, like if we still had talked and hung out as much as we did, it could have been prevented. 
     I think regardless of who you are, what you look like, whether you are black, white, Hispanic, Asian, etc. if you are small or big, tall or short, skinny or fat, loud or quite, gay or straight, you should ALWAYS be treated the same. No matter how different some one may be, it is who they are born to be, and nothing can change that. It is not something they should be looked at differently for or treated hatefully for. In fact this is something they should be praised for, it is what makes them, them. Nobody wants to live in a world where everyone is the same, how boring would that be! 
      Tune it out was created for people like Joey, and me for the underdogs in our world. I think that with every person we can make a difference, and it can help to end all forms of bullying in this world. Together, WE can make a difference!!

(This blog was done in rainbow because I am a proud supporter of gay rights, even though I, myself am straight, I believe that everyone is entitled to their own separate rights and opinions. people who laugh at those who are gay, are in return bullying those people.

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Pink Shirt Day

Pink Shirt day was on February 23rd, it was a good day because it was a day to let bullies know that we are willing to stand up for ourselves. heres a video advertising the day, which i found to be very useful because it has words that people tend to say that don't always seem hurtful, but are!



The video may be short, but it gets right to the point!! STOP BULLYING TODAY!!!

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Updates

Today I spoke with some younger students at school i went to for high school, St. Peter Chanel. It went pretty well, getting the message out about TUNE IT OUT....which is the first step if anyone has any questions, feel free to ask me =)

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

What is a Bully?

A bully can be seen with many different definitions. the most common one is found in a dictionary.

bul·ly

[bool-ee]

noun, plural -lies, verb, -lied, -ly·ing, 

  1. a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people. 
But this is just one definition for a bully, whether it is some one's version of "teasing" or "antagonizing" the truth is, no one really knows how to the other person really feels. some one's form of entertainment that is directed at being meaningless fun, could actually lead to some one having mental issues, even if they do not show. 

Take a case scenario:
John doe is five and goes to school with many kids who are bigger than him. John's classmates tease him about his size, as what they think is a joke. (keep in mind that even if you wouldn't do this, some one else might.) Although there is nothing wrong with teasing about an appearence, John is told that he is fine the way he is by his family. Everyday John would deal with being short, always having to ask for help for stuff that he couldn't reach himself. his stature also made him not so good at sports. the kids may have teased him about it, jokingly of course, but when John heard it, he always thought there was somthing wrong with him. 
 What may seem like mindless fun, could end up being mean toward some one else mind frame. it is hard to really put a definition on a bully or even find one for that matter because some times people do not talk about their problems. therefore it is not always easy to find who a bully is. Bully comes in many forms, physical, mental, and even through technology. The right job would be to work together to find people who feel that they are being bullied and help them cope with it, talk about it, or to turn the bullying into something positive. 


Some Forms of Bullying
PHYSICAL:

  • Hitting
  • Kicking
  • Pushing or Shoving
  • Punching
  • Stealing



VERBAL:

  • Teasing
  • Name-Calling
  • Insulting



RELATIONSHIP:

  • Refusing to talk to someone
  • Spreading rumors
  • Making someone do some thing they don't want to do
Sometimes Bullying may not seem like it exists in our world, because when someone thinks of bullying they think of some one beating on another person, but now, in this day in age, a bully is usually someone who uses verbal bullying to torture some one's emotions, without knowing they are doing so. Usually the bully has some sort of emotional problem in their background, wether it be mental, emotional, or way of coping with family matter or some other form of problem in their life.

Can you think of any one who may have endured some form of bullying or what type of bullying is the worst?



Monday, February 21, 2011

Tune it Out







Tune it out, standing up for the little man, and making a difference in the bullying world. 


Tune it out basically just stands up for the people who are bullying, people who are afraid to stand up for them self and want to talk about it. we are here to listen because we too have felt your pain. we are a non-profit organization, where if you you want to talk about it, feel free. take me for example, I love art, when i was younger no matter how much i was bullied for my size and stature, i find a way out through painting a picture or drawing some thing that would come to my mind. 


I know that it isn't always the easiest way to talk about it, but some times it helps to talk about what you like to do to take your mind off of things, thats what the blog is for. were looking for anybody who had a problem and needs a friend, this blog is here. 


comment for any reason, suggestions, topics, need to just blow off steam. we are all listening!